“VIRGINITY…!” Is this really what matters to the men gender in INDIA???


A Question On Girls’ Morality – Youth Blog of India –

“Are you pure?”

asked the guy who came to see Seema for marriage.

“Pure??” Seema couldn’t get his question.

“Pure as in untouched?” he clarified.

Seema now understood what he wanted to ask.

“What are you looking for a girl to marry or ghee?”she replied agitated by such a


He was shocked at such a reply, but before he could say anything, Seema continued,

“Well you can say if there was an exam about ‘purity’ I wouldn’t top it!”

His family left.

Next day he rang up Seema’s dad and told him that he can’t marry Seema as she is a girl with low morals. Bang on!


Welcome to the progressive India where we claim to be modern people but still make Virginity a base to check a girl’s morals or her capability to become a good wife.

Today when we claim that women have an equal status in the society with that of men, we still are under the orthodox views of using a white bed sheet on the first night of marriage just to check the bride’s virginity!!

The guy may himself have slept with number of girls but he wants a “pure”/“untouched” girl as a wife.



just to satisfy his male ego that the girl he is going to spend his life with has been and will be only his “possession”.

If today a girl loses her virginity with a guy she loves truly but the guy turns out to be a cheat then she is tagged as a “slut”/“characterless girl”.!

MIND YOU these being the most decent words I can pen down,

else there are a millions of: more worse words in our mother tongue vocabulary.

I ask what is the mistake of the girl??

She loved a guy?

She slept with someone she thought she would marry?

Or, she now has lost her purity which would satisfy her to-be husband’s male ego and make him believe that she is fit to be his wife!

And again no answers I could get!

I completely support the fact that we Indians should not give up on our morals and accept everything that westernisation gives us but I wonder how can a biological wall in the girl’s body by breaking decide the level of her morals?

I mean Seema could have been a great wife, she was marrying the guy her parents chose may be she had a bad past., But all that was seen was that she wasn’t pure!

And I am forced to wonder that what would happen to those rape victims?

Who would marry those girls?

Moreover a girl from a sports background, has always been told by those orthodox distant relatives to Quit it, why? because playing may result in breakage of the “moral wall”!

“Urggghhh”.!that’s what  I have always thought after hearing that!!

Yes, I am also a girl, an Indian girl, who values her morals, for whom her “izzat” is priceless, who has always dreamt of her “raajkumar” coming on a white horse to marry her, and who has always planned her wedding dress!

But I am also a girl who belongs to the globalism world, interacts with the Opposite sex, loves, has break-ups, overcomes them and Smiles again and no one has a right to tag me any thing…

For that reason!!!!

I just request you that next time you go looking for a girl for marriage, search for a true heart and not something like “pure ghee”, because she ‘s gonna be your life partner and not your meal to satisfy your hunger of ego.

When you look at a beautiful girl coming dressed in a red lehanga leaving her world behind, to become a part of your world, accept her, make her life a bed of roses rather than testing her loyalty by making her lay down on a bed with white bed sheet because true love will make your marriage successful, her“PURITY” won’t.

just another way of gender discrimination.


So that we can proudly say we are proud to be Indians..: A lot of men think they are doing women a favour by asking for her hand in marriage, but let’s think about this :

She changes her name,

Changes her home,

Leaves her family,

Moves in with you,

Builds a home with you,

Gets pregnant for you,

Pregnancy changes her body,

She gets fat,

Almost gives up in the labour room due to the unbearable pains of child-birth,

Even the kids she delivers bear your name.

Till the day she dies…Everything she does, (cooking, cleaning your house, taking care of your parents,bringing up your children, earning, advising you, ensuring you can be relaxed, maintaining all family relations, everything that benefit you…..sometimes at the cost of her own health , hobbies and beauty.

 So who is really doing whom a favour?

 Dear men appreciate the women in your lives always, co’z it is not easy to be a woman.

 *Being a woman is priceless *


proud to be women.

10 Comments Add yours

  1. Patty says:

    Wonderful and well said sweetie …..”Bravo”


    1. jyoti7208 says:

      Ohh..! thanks.. I need to spread a voice against this and this is the first ever thing written. I appreciate you liked it. I will be glad to take any suggestions if you can on this topic?


      1. Patty says:

        I think that you have covered the most important issues in your article……As you have stated a woman’s worth is her heart and her outlook….not whether or not she is still a virgin …….Good article sweetie…… ❤


      2. jyoti7208 says:

        Thanks for your appreciation. please do take a step to Spread this across…
        God bless,
        Love. 🙂


  2. Hats off to u for this write-up. Can I re-blog this one?? Because the situation is similar in my country as well 🙂

    Liked by 1 person

    1. jyoti7208 says:

      Ya sure you can do that n spreading these words are my actual focus. Let ppl know what are your opinions for this…
      God bless you,


  3. yuvrajjadeja says:

    “they’re looking for pure ghee” lols … that’s a good one.. 🙂

    well said jyoti

    a girl having a pure heart is the most purest one. a man may get a virgin wife… but there’s no guerantee that weather she can cheat him after marriage. i mean, there is a possiblity. in that case marrying a partner by accepting his/her past.. & you know that he or she will not cheat you is the big thing. a person on whom , you can put such trust is the purest one.

    a virgin body is easy to find… find a pure heart. that’s precious.

    Liked by 1 person

    1. jyoti7208 says:

      Wow..!!! Amazingly said the last few words.. ” a virgin body is easy to find…
      Find a pure heart, that’s precious…!”
      Thank you for your words and thoughts, I am glad that we have few men amongst us who actually care about purity of soul and trust motr than purity term reference to virginity…
      God bless you,
      Jyoti7208. 😀

      Liked by 1 person

  4. This sad boy expect from girl this do they pure by these?
    It’s sad


    1. jyoti7208 says:

      It’s really is sad…!!! I hope things change with time…
      Thankyou for ur words.
      Do visit again..
      Have a grt dae…!!! 🙂

      Liked by 1 person

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